But the news isn't all good. My DONA workshops are just the start of my time away from N. While completing my A.A., I was able to either bring him to class, or take evening classes so that T could be in charge while I was away. Now that I'm leaving community college and heading to a university, and to a double major plus honors minor, I'm beginning to see that child care is going to be an issue. I have always felt strongly that I want to be a stay-at-home mom to my children, at least until they are old enough to attend school. My heavy schedule at the college, however, is not going to allow this. I'm scrambling for a solution to our child care problem, and at the same time I'm mourning the loss of my time with N, and of my dream of being a stay-at-home parent. I have to weigh N's needs now - a young baby who still primarily nurses, and who is very attached to his mama, and in need of her attention - with my need to finish school soon, and our future familial and financial needs. There are no easy answers, and my heart hurts at the thought of the changes that are about to take place in N's life, and in mine.
Every night, after N falls asleep, I spend a little extra time cuddling him, stroking his hair, and enjoying a few precious moments to gaze in wonder at what I have made. Already so big and strong, he changes rapidly each and every day, and I know soon I will not be around to see all of those changes. Will I miss his first steps? His first word? How many of his smiles will I never see? How much of his delightful laughter will warm the heart of a day care worker, instead of his mama, who so desperately needs that warmth? I find myself mourning for the missed moments before they have even occurred.
Tomorrow, I think I will leave my laptop closed. The books and magazines I read in bits and snatches throughout the day will stay in their stack. Tomorrow I think I'll take N for a drive, find a nice park, and introduce him to all of the bushes and trees and birds and squirrels who live there. I will roll in the snow with him, laugh with him, and leave with as many photos and wonderful memories as I can. The time really does go by like a blur, they really do grow faster than I ever imagined, and each moment should be treated like the precious gem that it is. By the time he's grown, I want to have a fortune in these gems, so I'd better start saving for now for the rainy days ahead.